theocean, I will pray for your boss's son. Kids getting cancer is just about as heartbreaking as it gets.

Noelle, I'm glad your jury duty service is over. Deliberations for that kind of thing are the easy part, the courtroom testimony is the worst. I had a case with a guy who shot his baby and it paled in comparison with what you had to listen to. I hope you feel proud of being part of the process where justice is served at the very least.

I guess I'll ask for prayers/thoughts for myself in case it helps:

Most of you know I'm taking care of my disabled mother. I have to help her dress, wash, up and down stairs, on and off the toilet...she's been talking about wanting to go to a nursing home because it's getting increasingly hard to do those things even with my help. She literally does not think she can make another trip upstairs to the bathtub/bathroom. She wants to sit down with me and go over her finances and plan to move out.

I'm having a hard time dealing with this; people don't move out of long-term care facilities once they move in, and I'm not ready to give up on caring for her myself, as hard as it is. It seems too final, and like I'm failing her. I'm having a hard time dealing with the fact that this means she's that much closer to death.

I don't have any help...my real life friends my age not only live fairly far away, they have healthy, active parents and can't relate, and are busy with their careers and have no advice. My brother lives in a different region of the country. My dad is around but is abusive - he screams at my mother if she tries to ask him for help with anything and acts like she became disabled just to spite him. He grew up thinking that women were around to take care of the house and seems affronted that he has to help now. Ugh.

My brother lives in different region of the country; the rest of my family in is New York. I've asked my mother a million times to move closer to our family but I think she doesn't want them to see her like this.

Noelle, you said it was horrific, but I had no idea.   I'm so sorry you had to listen to all of that, but justice has been served.  It's shocking the level of depravity some people sink to.  I pray for the daughter and her children.  I hope they can find peace.  And you're in my prayers, too, Noelle.  I hope you can put the terrible pictures of the crimes behind you.

Uplate, my heart is breaking for you.  I pray you find the strength you need to carry on.  Your mother is so lucky to have you.

ocean, i will send my thoughts and prayers out for you.  and for anybody else out there who needs a prayer or a thought or just someone taking one moment out of their busy lives to stop and think about them, i send my love to you.  something i've been thinking about...we should all take that one moment during the day to think about all the people in the world, people we know or don't know or may never know, and pray for them.  because there's so much suffering and misery in our world...you don't always dwell on it, but maybe if each of us tried to share in the pain of those countless people, we really could lift each other up.  anyways, i plan to take that one moment every day and send my love to the souls of the world who are in need.

noelle and uplate, you'll be in my thoughts too.  life is such a short but beautiful thing.  treasure the day, because every day is a beautiful day.  just keep reminding yourself that.  no matter what happens or how bad things get, it's always a beautiful day.

Uplate,


My heart goes out to you and your mother. I was in a similar situation with mine. I understand you feeling like you may be failing her by no longer caring for her, but the best thing you can do for her and yourself is to abide by her wishes. She clearly does not want to burden you. I am sure she appreciates what you are doing for her and I have no doubt there is a joy in being able to care for her, as difficult as it can be. If her wish is to go into a facility, maybe the best thing you can do for her is to help her make that happen while she is still able to make her own decisions.

I will continue to keep both of you in my thoughts. You are in a very challanging postion and I really hope it resolves tiself in the nest way possible for all concerned.   

 Oh so many prayers are needed here today.   

My heart breaks for your boss's son, ocean. It is such a difficult battle but to ask a 4 year old to fight that battle is just an unbearable thought to me. I will pray for him each and everyday. I will ask all of my friends to pray for him. I believe in my heart there is power in numbers and I will lead an army for him starting today.

Noelle, I did Grand Jury a few years back and was forced to hear stories our ears should never hear. But we just voted them to go to trial. You had to relive each and every horrible detail. Be at peace that you did what your heart told you to do. Our justice system has its flaws but for the most part it works. You did the job you were asked to do according to our law and you can be at peace that justice was served here. Now I pray for all of those poor victims who will have an uphill battle to heal.

Uplate, you are a dear friend. I am so sorry you are faced with such a decision. Many in my family have been in your place. I know you are a wonderful daughter. You have done more for her than most people I know who would have given up a long time ago on their parent. This is a situation where none of us can tell you what to do. But know that your mother loves you and she knows all  that you have done for her. Perhaps this may be the time you honor her wishes and let her go to where she will be taken care by others now. I know this is a hard and painful decision and I pray for you as you come to terms with this. Talk to your mother. You will know what to do if you look inside your heart too. Do not think you are failing her in any way if you let her go. You have NOT. You have shown others what  love really is. Now you might consider to love her enough to let her go. You can visit her as much as you like I am sure. But again,  follow your own heart.
My prayers are with you as you come to this crossroad in your life.  SG

Wow, my prayers go out to everyone who was mentioned above.

Uplate I know you are strong or you couldnt have come this far. We will
say a prayer and we know that you and your Mom will make the right decision.
Its hardest on her with her disability I'm sure. She IS lucky to have you,
she knows it too thats why she doesnt want to be a burden. But I know, I
took care of my Mom in 2002-5, she had heart problems and passed away in
2005, but she didnt want to be a burden, but I loved taking care of her.
She actually told me a few times to quit babying her. 

Please everyone say a prayer for ABRS right now...

I just did at the moment.

Your in all our hearts Lucia 

Sky, we love you and hope that all will be well. We are grateful you are with your family and receiving proper care. Please recover quickly.

We will all pray for ABRS. May the Lord take care of you now and always.

I'll be praying for ABRS. I know you're a fighter, you can get through it 

Please everyone say a prayer for ABRS right now...

What's wrong with sky?

Praying for her now!

Sending prayers and good thoughts for ABRS 

ABRS!!!!  We love and miss you!!!!