Greetings Beli (and others)
First, a warm 2013 to all.
Second, fumble fingers here, so I'll try (harder) to be brief.
There is likely some continuum or spectrum of inconvenience, and there are likely the points of skepticism, mild annoyance and cynicism on this spectrum. Actually, its likely two spectrums, - the logical and the emotional, where a cynic does not believe much of anything, and certainly very little of things that are good. Which brings me to my point. I don't think your initial reaction was out of line so much as it might have been human nature. And just like Black Swan incidents, the actual circumstance (and the rarity) of the situation was much more dire and tragic than you could have reasonably foreseen. So does this make you a cynic or a nasty person? No, because the key test here is how you responded (with humlity, concern, compassion, empathy etc.) in a graceful manner instantly AFTER you learned the circumstance(s). So don't belittle or berate yourself ... but thank you for the valuable insights into a useful habit (which I'll strive to adopt each year) and thanks for rapidly demonstrating the usual care and compassion that you're likely rightly known for. Got to scoot. We remain proud of you Beli, and more than this, we almost always learn something valuable from your contributions and insights. A joyous 2013 to all, and prayers to the family as well as the extended network impacted or hurt by this tragedy. It will scar their holidays for many years, but we'll still pray for their welfare, and for yours too.