Not only does love exist, it persists and endures.

That's a beautiful line.

Not only does love exist, it persists and endures.

That's a beautiful line.

Yes it is and yes it does!!

My camera is my girlfriend and/or wife and my pictures are my children(the best thing about my pictures being my children is that, if I don't like the way they turn out, I can non-chalantly toss them in the nearest trash can or dumpster with no repercussions...that's not so easy with humans, especially when they're young ).

Seriously though, the best kind of love is the kind where you love an inaminate object.

I think the most damaging thing about the relationship was that it's left me questioning the nature of love. The two years we had were marked by several arguments and struggling to co-exist...I'm actually surprised we lasted as long as we did, but that's not the point. The point is that I wonder now if every other relationship I have is gonna be the same. Is that what romantic relationships are like? Does being together with someone really bring out the worst of you, and does loving that person means you have to constantly tolerate that side? I would think that love means I am able to accept the worse aspects of a person, but throughout the relationship I always had to struggle with my distaste and my dislike for those aspects. Is that normal? Am I just flawed that way that I can't accept someone for who they are, that I can't live without wishing my partner would change? Or is that the way love is and I've just got to suck it up and tolerate it? Because I've always thought that true love means accepting and loving someone unconditionally. And right now it seems that knowing and relating to people on a platonic level, its so much easier to accept them unconditionally than to involve myself in another intimate relationship. If that's the case that I really don't want to take a chance at losing love to find romance.

I'm confused. Sigh.

Read 1 Corinthians 13:4
It will give you an idea about love, what you should look for and what you need to give.
Dont worry God will give you your true love someday yukona, just ask. Hey what did Bono say
is Gods phone number? 

Read 1 Corinthians 13:4
It will give you an idea about love, what you should look for and what you need to give.
Dont worry God will give you your true love someday yukona, just ask. Hey what did Bono say
is Gods phone number? 

that number is 216-831....omg, I almost gave my number out ! 

Yukona, I can tell you from experience that while romance is important in a relationship, it isn't everything.  The most important thing is that you have to actually like each other.  Yes, you have to love each other, too, but if you don't like the person you're with, how are you going to spend the rest of your life together?  It will only lead to resentments, and what's the point of that?  You don't have to be alike, but you should be compatible, if that makes any sense.  Sometimes it just takes time....

My camera is my girlfriend and/or wife and my pictures are my children(the best thing about my pictures being my children is that, if I don't like the way they turn out, I can non-chalantly toss them in the nearest trash can or dumpster with no repercussions...that's not so easy with humans, especially when they're young ).

Seriously though, the best kind of love is the kind where you love an inaminate object.

LOL this is soo funny. well weird and funny. 

Yukona, I can tell you from experience that while romance is important in a relationship, it isn't everything.  The most important thing is that you have to actually like each other.  Yes, you have to love each other, too, but if you don't like the person you're with, how are you going to spend the rest of your life together?  It will only lead to resentments, and what's the point of that?  You don't have to be alike, but you should be compatible, if that makes any sense.  Sometimes it just takes time....

Ex is right, Yukona.  Romance carries along a relationship in its early stages.  But after that wears off, there has to be a genuine like for each other, and enjoyment of being together.  A friendship.  Every relationship will not be like this one was.  you will find someone who is nto perfect, but who is perfect for you. 

Yukona, I can tell you from experience that while romance is important in a relationship, it isn't everything.  The most important thing is that you have to actually like each other.  Yes, you have to love each other, too, but if you don't like the person you're with, how are you going to spend the rest of your life together?  It will only lead to resentments, and what's the point of that?  You don't have to be alike, but you should be compatible, if that makes any sense.  Sometimes it just takes time....

Ex is right, Yukona.  Romance carries along a relationship in its early stages.  But after that wears off, there has to be a genuine like for each other, and enjoyment of being together.  A friendship.  Every relationship will not be like this one was.  you will find someone who is nto perfect, but who is perfect for you. 

I hope so. Faith is hard for me right now...its funny because I always played the Mulder to her Scully in that respect. Now after breaking up I'm starting to realize how cynical the relationship made me.

Love is when I lie
Love puts the blue back in my eye
Love has come again
I am gone again
Love's got to be with the weak
Only then love gets a chance to speak
Love will come again
I'll be gone again... again

I'm sorry yukona, I know breaking up can be hard even if it's mutual. It's never easy to be seperated from someone who you were with for such a long time. But it will get better, I know from experience from being both in a nice relationship where the breakup was mutual but also in one which ended up with him breaking my nose and me doing some damage to him too. It took me a long time to get over both, but particularly that second one.

Stuff like this can definitely spark your creativity! Since that second breakup got me suspended from school since it was on school grounds (even though it was after school), I spent a lot of time at home playing my bass and writing songs - angry songs, sad songs....they really helped me cope with what happened and now I have some great material.

Music can really help you with things like this.

Yukona, I am sighing with and for you.  I don't have any answers for you - I knew much more then than I do now - but count me in as someone to help carry you.  I hope you've got lots of friends and family around to be a support for the times you need to laugh, cry, obsess, and forget.  This much I know is true: Don't blame yourself, and hang in there.

So I'm back posting on this thread. Not that I mean to flog a dead horse...but the ex has a new boyfriend now. There's a part of me that's happy for her and is all congratulations and stuff, but there's another part of me that's pretty pissed. I mean, it's been less than two months! And she added me back on Facebook right after she changed her Facebook status. I can't help but think that that was deliberate on her part.

Right, so maybe I'm not as over it as I thought I was. It hurt more than I thought it did, and I'm more jealous that I thought I would be.

Hang in there Yuk, time does heal. Try not to let her actions get you down.