Ask Dr. Middy, a Q&A for anybody

[MLP Midnight]

So, be in that I'm waiting a month to actually do something here, what exactly do I do to hold out for a month? She's kinda in my mind all the time now (HA, Electrical Storm).

How about planting a seed in her mind before she takes off for the holidays?  That'll give her something to think about.

And while you wanna be friends with a lover, you don't want her to start seeing you as a friend in the platonic sense only.  Physical and sexual attraction is a must and you either have it for each other or you don't.

I'm giving her subtle hints about me liking her more than just a friend, I'm just not sure if they're being actually seen or not.

And about the last part, well lets just say that the sexual part (if everything does works out for the better) will come later. Trust me, Its not like I don't have sexual attraction to her, in fact its the complete opposite. I'm not a believer into rushing that aspect.

[Belisama]

So, be in that I'm waiting a month to actually do something here, what exactly do I do to hold out for a month? She's kinda in my mind all the time now (HA, Electrical Storm).

Mid,

Since you aren't saying exactly what you are doing to "lay the groundwork" here it is hard to give solid advice but I can make a few suggestions. First of all you dont want to give too much pressure on the friendship. So try not to hang out with her too much. Women don't like to be crowded out.

Try to do activities that she is interested in. Also you can ask her along to help with holiday errands, especially if you solicit her help in shopping for a female member of your family. This is also good because it lends itself to a semi date situation like stopping for a cup of coffee or hot cocoa while at the Mall, etc. Kind of a Thank you for her help. She will feel flattered that you asked her advice and it will give the two of you a chance to bond without the pressure of an actual date.

Another piece of advice I would have for you is to keep busy-- work out, hang with friends, etc. This will help you from focusing too much on her and your feelings for her so that you can keep things in perspective. 

[MLP Midnight]

So, be in that I'm waiting a month to actually do something here, what exactly do I do to hold out for a month? She's kinda in my mind all the time now (HA, Electrical Storm).

Mid,

Since you aren't saying exactly what you are doing to "lay the groundwork" here it is hard to give solid advice but I can make a few suggestions. First of all you dont want to give too much pressure on the friendship. So try not to hang out with her too much. Women don't like to be crowded out.

Try to do activities that she is interested in. Also you can ask her along to help with holiday errands, especially if you solicit her help in shopping for a female member of your family. This is also good because it lends itself to a semi date situation like stopping for a cup of coffee or hot cocoa while at the Mall, etc. Kind of a Thank you for her help. She will feel flattered that you asked her advice and it will give the two of you a chance to bond without the pressure of an actual date.

Another piece of advice I would have for you is to keep busy-- work out, hang with friends, etc. This will help you from focusing too much on her and your feelings for her so that you can keep things in perspective.

Yeah I should clarify.

She'll usually hang out in our room every couple of days for a few hours with me and my roommate. I actually usually convince her to hang out longer, she might see this as me enjoying her company.

Otherwise I mean now everybody is busy with finals (including myself), so that doesn't leave much time to do much else. We aren't in any similar classes, so it does sort of make things a bit difficult. I was actually considering taking an audio production minor before coming here, which has a bunch of classes she's in.

[Tumbling Dice]

I'd tell your roommate to sling his hook.

[MLP Midnight]

I'd tell your roommate to sling his hook.

He wasn't around the last time me and her hung out. 

[theocean]

Dear Middy,

Question:

Why are there so many conspiracy theories around these days? Every time I turn around,
I hear a new one?? I dont remember this going on growing up..

thanks..

[Inishfree]

So, be in that I'm waiting a month to actually do something here, what exactly do I do to hold out for a month? She's kinda in my mind all the time now (HA, Electrical Storm).

How about planting a seed in her mind before she takes off for the holidays?  That'll give her something to think about.

And while you wanna be friends with a lover, you don't want her to start seeing you as a friend in the platonic sense only.  Physical and sexual attraction is a must and you either have it for each other or you don't.

I'm giving her subtle hints about me liking her more than just a friend, I'm just not sure if they're being actually seen or not.

And about the last part, well lets just say that the sexual part (if everything does works out for the better) will come later. Trust me, Its not like I don't have sexual attraction to her, in fact its the complete opposite. I'm not a believer into rushing that aspect.

I think that is very mature on your part.  Rushing into sex can ruin a relationship.  It is always better to fall in love first.